COUPLES
THERAPY
My approach to couples therapy is direct, practical, and skill-based. I help couples identify unproductive patterns, communicate more effectively, manage conflict better, and build a stronger relationship over time.
Many couples come in feeling stuck in the same arguments or disconnected from one another despite repeated attempts to fix the problem on their own. Often, both partners feel misunderstood, reactive, defensive, criticized, or emotionally exhausted by the dynamic between them.
My work is primarily grounded in the Gottman Method. Sessions focus not only on insight, but on learning concrete tools that couples can use outside the therapy room.
Part of the work involves learning how to:
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Communicate more clearly
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Slow conflict down before escalation
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Reduce criticism, defensiveness, and contempt
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Repair after arguments
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Build trust and emotional connection
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Navigate differences more effectively
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Strengthen friendship, respect, and partnership
Alongside the Gottman approach, I am also influenced by Terry Real and Esther Perel’s work around intimacy, autonomy, resentment, desire, relational roles, and the realities of long-term partnership.
I work with couples around:
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Communication difficulties
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Recurring conflict
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Emotional disconnection
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Trust issues
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Resentment
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Parenting stress
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Cultural differences
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Sexual and intimacy concerns
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Betrayal and repair
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Life transitions
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The impact of stress, burnout, perimenopause, and menopause on relationships
I also work with couples navigating high-pressure careers, immigrant and bicultural relationships, and neurodivergence within the relationship.
Some couples come to therapy wanting to strengthen the relationship. Others are trying to determine whether the relationship can continue. Therapy can help create more clarity, accountability, and understanding in either direction.
I offer online couples therapy for clients located in California.
Fluent in English and Turkish.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is your approach to couples therapy?
My approach is direct, practical, and skill-based. I help couples identify unhealthy patterns, improve communication, manage conflict more effectively, and strengthen the relationship over time using concrete tools they can apply outside of sessions.
What types of couples do you work with?
I work with couples experiencing communication problems, recurring conflict, emotional disconnection, trust issues, resentment, intimacy concerns, parenting stress, cultural differences, life transitions, and betrayal or repair after relationship ruptures.
What therapy methods do you use?
My work is primarily grounded in the Gottman Method, while also being influenced by the work of Terry Real and Esther Perel, particularly around intimacy, autonomy, resentment, desire, and long-term partnership dynamics.
What can couples expect to work on in therapy?
Couples often work on:
Communicating more clearly
Slowing conflict before escalation
Reducing criticism and defensiveness
Repairing after arguments
Rebuilding trust and emotional connection
Navigating differences more effectively
Strengthening friendship, respect, and partnership
Do you only work with couples in crisis?
No. Some couples come to therapy because they feel stuck or disconnected, while others want to strengthen an already solid relationship, improve communication, or deepen emotional intimacy.
Can therapy help us decide whether to stay together?
Yes. Some couples seek therapy to gain clarity about whether the relationship can continue. Therapy can help create greater understanding, accountability, and clarity in either direction.
Do you work with high-conflict couples?
Yes. I work with couples who experience recurring arguments, emotional reactivity, defensiveness, criticism, or feelings of exhaustion within the relationship dynamic.
Do you work with multicultural or immigrant couples?
Yes. I work with immigrant and bicultural relationships, including couples navigating cultural differences, identity, family expectations, and differing communication styles.
Do you work with neurodivergent couples?
Yes. I work with couples navigating neurodivergence within the relationship and help partners better understand communication differences, emotional needs, and relationship dynamics.
Do you address intimacy and sexual concerns?
Yes. Therapy can include conversations around intimacy, desire, resentment, emotional connection, sexual concerns, and the realities of long-term partnership.
Can stress or burnout affect relationships?
Absolutely. I work with couples impacted by high-pressure careers, chronic stress, burnout, perimenopause, and menopause, all of which can significantly affect communication, connection, and emotional regulation within relationships.
Are sessions online or in person?
I offer online couples therapy for clients located in California.
What languages do you offer therapy in?
I am fluent in English and Turkish.